“Children’s expectations of Parents and other Adults around them”

The world of a child is an interesting burden of expectations. If you have been in a situation where your child will have to ask you everything under the sun, then you are in that elite status of the finder or the know-all!

To the child every parent (and the adult caretaker) around is a super human they expect to provide everything, no matter how trivial or bluntly unreasonable. The child’s expectation of the immediate environment is no less of the child’s expectation of the parents; in fact, the parents are the first immediate environment the child cannot do without in earnest. As a baby, the child depends in totality on the parents for survival, and he or she continues like this while gradually growing into a toddler, but at a more defined point of view, that is as time goes on, he or she is able to define ‘personal wants’ more reasonably. The child silently expects the mother to do her duty of training her to take her first steps and experience the life of the adults in the best interpretable way and the father to conjure anything he or she wants from candies to the more complex toys.

The above would be one heavy fact for a circumferencial view on the radiation of emotion within a conventional family. Nonetheless, a happy family lives on the fact and reality of the flow of understanding within it; their continual learning to deal with each other’s short-comings and misdemeanors. And the recurrent show of impish behaviour and pranks, which in some cases can be seen in even the adults too.

The totality of what made up a child’s sensibility is the honest drive to understand his or her environment, and continue to engage in it by playing with it. They are yet to fully understand what consequences and effects are all about, and thus having no knowledge of any kind of limit whatsoever. In this light, a child believes in his or her touches or contacts with this environment. The capacity and ability to play with his environment, irrespective of what or who is affected by the consequence and effect of his play. Thus, a child also supplely expects discipline to be carried out by the parents and the familiar adults (they could respect) around.

“Blood really is thicker than water, and no aspect of human existence is untouched by that part of our psychology.”

Steven Pinker (1954 - )

U.S. cognitive scientist and author.

Now, in this stage of life the child is not deliberately trying to define himself or herself, instead he or she is trying to define her environment by simply and gradually analysing the parents, their likes and not. In other words, he or she uses the parents as pole of standard; seeing in the eyes of the parents, what the outside world is likely to be. Thus, if they like something, he or she automatically likes it as well and whatever they detest, she detests.

What the superior man seeks is in himself. What the mean man seeks is in others.

Confucius (551 BC - 479 BC)

Chinese philosopher, administrator, and moralist.

Analects

Summarily, the expectations of a child is simple, they want to be pampered in all ways possible.

Thanks!

Samuel Solomon O.

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