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The Child and the TV

Just like in the lives of the children too, the law of attraction tells everyone that we bring into our lives that which we put our attention on. The secret to life may be for one to put his or her attention on what serves better and take the attention away from what does otherwise. Among everything, that garners one’s attention in life, the television has been one electronic we are yet to conclude either to be graded under vices or virtues based on its contributions to the lives of humanity. But for the sake of this article, we are going to merely examine the effects of the television or TV in the lives of the children and the best ways an adult are expected to tackle this in their lives and extensively in the lives of the younger generations. There are some basic questions we need to ask ourselves like ‘What do I really gain from watching the television?’ ‘Those things I gained watching the television, are they educative or spiritually, morally and even physically uplifting?’ ‘Are there programmes I watch in the sitting room and quickly reach for the TV remote whenever my kid is coming in?’ ‘How much time have I really dedicated to watching the TV with my little one(s)?’ before we can begin to judge or categorise, because we often create a habit of watching the television no matter what it is that we are watching. It is just like talking and quickly judging others, while we stand aloof with the suspicious saying that, ‘What I watch doesn’t affect me. I live ways beyond it!’

 We get daily and different feedbacks from the television, which subsequently encourage us in making decisions that eventually stifle our think-ability and by extension our creativity. We practically conform to the whims and caprices of the television marketers and producers. They made us exchange our reality without any obvious regret for their high-powered sensationalism and video effects, and this over the years has been what the adults fight against in the lives of the children.

The child and the TV is one bound, one connection, that may simply be difficult for any adult to break. And the best suggestible way is for the adult to influence it positively based on the level of knowledge and susceptibility of the child and the expanse of experience in the outcomes of the various television programmes as viewed by the adults. Children may love cartoon programmes on the television, but the question is ‘How educative and influencing are these cartoons?’ in the same light as watching all these numberless comedies, because there are highly nefarious and debasing kinds of cartoons, comedies and slap sticks on the televisions these days. Of course, we all submit to the idea of freedom for the child to watch and choose his or her own programme on the television, after all there are families that procure the television, basically, because of them. But it cease to be a reasonable length of freedom when a child chooses a certain questionable television programme that may in any way facilitate or encourage thoughts like, love-for-the-firearms, hatred, racism, incest, and any form of Oedipus or Electra complexes, just to mention a few.

A parent or any guiding adult must learn to understand the connection between the child and the TV to a very reasonable extent. Virtually most of what the child may fall in love with on the television are plain high-tech video effects and sensationalism, indulgence and dreams, and we wouldn’t want to build the future leaders on mere loads of surrealism that may not even be advisable in some quarters. Thus, by all standards a well-tamed present will only lead to an approachable future.

Not a 'window on the world'
But as we call you,
A box a tube
Terrarium of dreams and wonders.

Robert Pinsky (1940 - )

U.S. poet.

On the Jersey Rain, "To Television"

    

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Samuel Solomon O.

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Love child: how loved are they?

Children may be our most important legacy in the world today and our love to them may be the most important legacy still. However, it cannot be over-emphasised that the idea behind having a ‘love child’ is different; tilting more toward the parents’ common selfishness and personal love for themselves rather than the expected love for the child in the first place, even in a contract marriage. It is, no doubt, ironical that in most cases, a ‘love child’ is simply deprived of love, and could most times as well get the blame for coming into the world at the time he or she did. He or she is seen as an intrusion. An annoying intrusion to deliberately permanent what was not meant to be permanent or elongate a situation that should have been temporal. In this context, one can submit that in most homes a ‘love child’ is a child that may not get the most love, especially when the parents are divorce or just not living together as matured grown up adults. Nonetheless, there are ways to showing love to such a child bereft of love, so as to help solidify their future and of course our future as well. A ‘love child’ in this regard refers to a child giving birth to at a time that is not planned for which could in a word regrettable to the parent(s)

I. Spend Quality time with them.
Time in itself is a precious gift. It allows you to have mutual exchange of ideas, emotions, actions, physical concerns and words that help them develop and learn to confidently communicate like every other kid.
II. Strive to be the Primary Role Model for them.
Children generally need examples to follow and model themselves after, thus, teach them practical values by personally modelling those values. Admit whenever you make a mistake and apologize immediately with all sense of concern. Create a connection between you and the child by living the advantage of integrity over peer pressure. Which in turn makes them confident enough to always come to you.
III. Sincerely Listen to them.
A ‘love child’ might easily sees himself or herself as a different in the family, and in a separated family a woe. This might consequentially have a dire effect in his or her communication with the parent(s) or an outsider. Therefore, a parent(s) builds self-esteem in them when he or she shows interest in what they say. Children generally need to communicate the pride in their accomplishments and also their needs. And, a ‘love child’ is no different. If the parent(s) sincerely listens to them, they will also grow up sincerely listening to the parent(s) and people around them.
IV. Show them Discipline…with love.
Children generally need tutelage, guidelines and safe boundaries without being unnecessarily constrained. They need to learn the value of being accountable for their choices and actions, and a ‘love child’ is not different. He or she also needs to be disciplined with love. In fact, pampering has more negativity on them unlike every other child with no such ‘tag’ on him or her. Let them know that you disapprove of any kind of disrespect and hurtful actions but will always love them as any other son(s) and daughter(s). this kind of discipline enables them to recognize the best in other people and also allows them the freedom to explore the world safely in order to reach their highest potential.
V. Encourage them always.
Encouraging words are powerful for emotional uplifting and self-esteem. The parent(s) should verbally acknowledge child's special talents and accomplishments. They need to know we recognize and support their hopes, intentions and dreams for the future. By encouraging them mentally, emotionally, and spiritually provides the foundation for living a balanced life.
VI. Communicate with them.
We all have valuable stories to tell, and the parent(s) should not exclude a ‘love child’ from gaining from the wealth of their life experiences. Of course, only the encouraging ones that can help them to shape their lives for good. Experiences shared in robust sense of communication can help them make informed decisions and avoid unnecessary mistakes.
If one could sum up all of love child’s needs, just like every other child one would come up with just one word… Love. We share love when we play a central role in a child's world of learning, discovery and understanding of his or her natural environment. The legacy of love shared will have a guiding influence on them and the generations, thus making the world a better place.

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Samuel Solomon O.

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Dads: What would you do?

Still on what we are discussing, what you would do or you think needed to be done, as a father, in some situations that happen in the home. Just like before, forget about the arrangement and realities of your personal homes. Let us share some thoughts or advice about what to do in some situations lined below;

What would you do if and when…

1. You discover that your teenage son suddenly got someone pregnant, and the person happens to be your little niece?
2. Your daughter kept running away from you, claiming she has a dream where you raped her?
3. You caught your racist neighbour ‘pants-down’ with your daughter?
4. Your teenage daughter deliberately asked and begged you to be her lover?
5. Your little child walks into the room while you are ‘erotically’ and ‘adulterously’ involve with a neighbour’s wife with the light still on?
6. You entered into your teenage son’s room and saw a knife, guns and a note that says ‘pay us a ransom of $50,000 or your daughter dies’ secretly hidden underneath a carpet?
7. You entered into the room of your son, who is supposed to be in the boarding school, and shockingly found him there with a girlfriend?
8. Your little son suddenly fell down while you are both taking a leisure walk in the park. You looked at the back of his head to see blood gushing out of a gun shot wound, and behind you is another little boy staring at you confused and innocently with a gun that just went off in his hands?

Samuel Solomon O.

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Moms: What would you do?

Today, I just want to sprite up your mind about what you would do or think needed to be done in some certain situations that commonly happen in the home. For now, forget about the arrangement and realities of your personal homes. Let us share some thoughts or advice about what to do in the situations lined below;

What would you do if and when…

1. You discover that your daughter’s irrevocable penchant for fibbing will eventually end her life, without her actually knowing it?
2. Your child kept running away from you, claiming you are possessed?
3. You caught your adolescent daughter ‘pants-down’ with a boyfriend?
4. Your ten-year-old son tells you, “Mum, we were taught about intercourse in our sex education class today and our teacher told us…err… Nevermind. Mum, can I please have sex with you?”
5. Your little child walks into the room while you are ‘erotically’ busy with your husband with the light still on?
6. You shockingly saw and heard on the TV that your daughter, who just went into her room ten minutes ago, died in a ghastly motor accident some streets away?
7. Your daughter comes to you saying, “Mum, I’m pregnant, and the little baby in me belongs to…err…Dad.”
8. Your little child suddenly fell down and collapse with you seriously sick and laying on a sick bed? ....do you know that a financially challenged home can raise a child properly?

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When a child tells you… “You are stupid!”

In the lives of human beings here on earth, there is freedom, indulgence and madness! It now depends on the one chosen by the individual running a home. Traditionally a father and mother are expected to be the sole runners of the home. They are supposed to be the highest authority in the home, but these days we have come to realise that the contrary has been the reality. The authorities that run the home are far beyond the parents, aside the government and the set policies. The neighbours run the home too, although most times subconsciously and sinuously. The many peer pressures that circulate the entirety of our lives also run the home indirectly and likewise our feelings at a point in time, and worst still, some infectious programmes we watch on the television, thus it is like saying the television also runs our homes!

All the highlighted authorities have their different effects and influences, some are wholly sinuously destructive when not properly monitored. Now, to break these into the primary effects in the homes, which are what we can term the aftermath of freedom, indulgence and plain madness as regards a situation that could warrant a child looking straight into the eyes of a grown up, or a mate sometimes, and saying to the person, You are stupid!

Sometimes, for the sake of love, mostly the ones we never enjoyed from our own parents, we tend to shower our children so much freedom that eventually have them misbehaving, like the freedom to speak and be spoken to, to participate, to feel and touch and so on. But as children we cannot blame them for misbehaving because they are children not yet able to discern maturely. Engaging our children in the simple freedom to life is not the worst that can happen in our home. When we show love to them, we get their attention and love in return, but indulgence…? This obviously has a very distasteful colouration from the onset. Yielding to a child’s wants and wishes could backfire in the long run, and eventually depriving such a parent(s) the love and respect of the child. And the worst of it all is… madness!

I call it madness, because it has no other meaning to it. A situation where a parent(s) or the adult not only give the child the complete freedom to life, but also indulge him or her and worst of all involve the child in interactions and situations that are diabolical. The parent believes, he or she is only cementing the child’s stands and authority, but in the actual sense of it, such a parent(s) should be arrested for attempting to destroy an innocent child’s future.   

Let us try to highlight these below;

…in complete freedom to life.

A parent(s): Whenever your Mum and I are having a discussion with a visitor, you can stay back, okay?

A child: Okay, whatever you say, Dad.

…in indulging a child.

A parent(s): Whenever your Mum and I are having a discussion with a visitor, you can stay back to put on the TV to the best and highest of your volume, okay?

A child: Yeah, Dad, you are the best!

…in sheer madness.

A parent(s): Whenever your Mum and I are having a discussion with a visitor, you can stay back to kick the visitor in the face for not sitting properly, okay?

A child: Hun?

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Samuel Solomon O.

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Using cursing words in their presence. Urgh!

The use of cursing words or expressions in the presence of the child or children cannot just be termed as being bad, but indeed consequential. There are what we can class as mild cursing words and some that are highly destructive and defaming. They are complete and inhibited show of fury and expletives. In any circumstance, an adult is not supposed to use cursing words, either mild or heavy, because like every other things under the sky, it has its consequence as well. When a child from a tender age starts to use some of these words, it tells on the homes and family from where he comes.

Some supposed mild ones might be;

• Hey Johnny, are you blind, can’t you see the door is open?
• Johnny, come right here now or else I make you suffer?
• I think you’re stupid there, Johnny
• Your middle name should be ‘Master Foolish’
• Hey you numbskull do I look stupid to you?
• I wonder how you escaped being classed among the stupids?
• Are you so deaf or just stupid?
• Nonsense!
• You are foolish, you know?
• Save me some air, because you stink!

While the more terrible ones will be;

• You are crazy!
• You are a big fool!
• Get the #fcuk# out of my sight!
• #fcuk# you!
• Are you #fcuking# with me?
• You are an #ars...hole#!
• You are a #bast…rd#
• May you rot in #h…ll#!
• You are a #muthafcuking%bast…d#!
• You #nigg…r%bast…d#!

Thanks you.

Samuel Solomon O.

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