In the lives of human beings here on earth, there is freedom, indulgence and madness! It now depends on the one chosen by the individual running a home. Traditionally a father and mother are expected to be the sole runners of the home. They are supposed to be the highest authority in the home, but these days we have come to realise that the contrary has been the reality. The authorities that run the home are far beyond the parents, aside the government and the set policies. The neighbours run the home too, although most times subconsciously and sinuously. The many peer pressures that circulate the entirety of our lives also run the home indirectly and likewise our feelings at a point in time, and worst still, some infectious programmes we watch on the television, thus it is like saying the television also runs our homes!
All the highlighted authorities have their different effects and influences, some are wholly sinuously destructive when not properly monitored. Now, to break these into the primary effects in the homes, which are what we can term the aftermath of freedom, indulgence and plain madness as regards a situation that could warrant a child looking straight into the eyes of a grown up, or a mate sometimes, and saying to the person, You are stupid!
Sometimes, for the sake of love, mostly the ones we never enjoyed from our own parents, we tend to shower our children so much freedom that eventually have them misbehaving, like the freedom to speak and be spoken to, to participate, to feel and touch and so on. But as children we cannot blame them for misbehaving because they are children not yet able to discern maturely. Engaging our children in the simple freedom to life is not the worst that can happen in our home. When we show love to them, we get their attention and love in return, but indulgence…? This obviously has a very distasteful colouration from the onset. Yielding to a child’s wants and wishes could backfire in the long run, and eventually depriving such a parent(s) the love and respect of the child. And the worst of it all is… madness!
I call it madness, because it has no other meaning to it. A situation where a parent(s) or the adult not only give the child the complete freedom to life, but also indulge him or her and worst of all involve the child in interactions and situations that are diabolical. The parent believes, he or she is only cementing the child’s stands and authority, but in the actual sense of it, such a parent(s) should be arrested for attempting to destroy an innocent child’s future.
Let us try to highlight these below;
…in complete freedom to life.
A parent(s): Whenever your Mum and I are having a discussion with a visitor, you can stay back, okay?
A child: Okay, whatever you say, Dad.
…in indulging a child.
A parent(s): Whenever your Mum and I are having a discussion with a visitor, you can stay back to put on the TV to the best and highest of your volume, okay?
A child: Yeah, Dad, you are the best!
…in sheer madness.
A parent(s): Whenever your Mum and I are having a discussion with a visitor, you can stay back to kick the visitor in the face for not sitting properly, okay?
A child: Hun?
Thanks you.
Samuel Solomon O.
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